Panduan buat stalker-stalker sedunia

Saja je kan buat stalker to jamak, padahal nk ckp pasal diri senirik..kihkih.

Ummi ada baca few articles yesterday, and ummi tertarik dengan tajuk ni:

Stalking is permissible in Islam

Weird kan? I’m sure we are fully aware that spying and stalking are haram based on Surah Al-Hujurat verse 12.

"O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful."


But “stalking” in this term means seeking a woman for marriage. And it can be done based on certain rules:

1. If you have strong intention to marry her
2. Restricted to only woman’s hand and face
3. From a distance
4. Without her knowing(because if she knew, she may act differently from what she actually was, and she may be disappointed if the man changed his mind and not proposing her.
5. Before proposing

According to Shaykh al-Waleed al-Faryaan, a man should not look at any woman except the one he seriously wants to marry. Kalau tak berkenan then he can move on to another.

Al-Mughirah ibn Sha‘bah said:

“I got engaged to a woman at the time of the Prophet (S.A.W). He asked me, ‘Have you seen her?’ I said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘Go and have a look at her, because it is more fitting that love and compatibility be established between you.’” [1]

But don't get me wrong, ada batasan in everything we do. cukup sekadar mengenali dengan siapa kita berkawan. So, after we did these and berkenan, we can proceed to the next step.

*orang sekarang ni suka stalk celebrity, which is sooo buang masa.*

Engagement according to Shariah

5 ways of engagement:

1. When the man directly propose/asks the woman to marry him
2. The man asks the woman's wali to marry her daughter
3. Using third party for engagement purpose
4. Wali offer his daughter to a pious man
5. A woman offer herself to a pious man

If both parties agree and accept(using either one of these methods) they are considered to be engaged according to shariah.

Sebenarnya, engagement party tu tak required pun dalam Islam.

Pasal bertunang ni, ummi tertarik dengan satu hadis:

Rasulullah saw bersabda: Seorang lelaki tidak boleh meminang pinangan lelaki lain, sehingga lelaki pertama yang meminangnya membatalkannya, atau mengizinkannya.(Hadis riwayat Bukhari)

So, if you got engaged and lepas tu Ustaz Don nak masuk meminang, kire tak leh la..kihkihkih.

Sources:
[1] Reported by Al-Nisa'i sahih isnad

http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/20069
http://www.iluvislam.com/v1/readarticle.php?article_id=967
http://www.wefound.org/texts/Ideal_Muslims_files/hiswife.htm

*hmm status ummi tak dpat dikenal pasti.tak pelah.doa y trbaik ok.*